In Praise of The Dancing Buddy

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It's been said that each friend fulfills a different need in our lives. There's the 'shoulder-to-cry-on' friend, the 'tough-love' friend, the 'redecorate your apartment' friend. Depending on how many friends you have, the list can fan out longer than a country kilometer. 

But if, like me, you're a newly-minted thirty-something who's been in a relationship for almost a decade, goes to bed around 9pm every night, and takes a lot of 'artful' pictures of your cat, then no friend is more useful in helping you create a balance in your life then the 'always up for dancing' buddy.

I met my own dancing buddy when I was doing my MA in Journalism at Western University in 2011. I found that as long as I kept dancing, I missed my family and boyfriend far less. It was a compulsion that burned a lot of calories, better than, say, crying myself to sleep with a bottle of wine on my nightstand (I did that sometimes, too). And so we danced, a lot.

What I didn't realize is that I'd keep up this habit of dancing my stress away long after I was back in my natural 9-5 habitat. Rain or shine, work night or weekend, my dancing buddy is still always up for an adventure. Unlike our early twenties, when the object of the dance floor was to look as cool as possible, anything goes now. We once wore rain boots to a bar because it just seemed practical on a drizzly night. We've also dragged along my partner, who functions more as our chaperone as he gently sways to the music and gives the stink-eye to anyone who gets too close.

She's the reason why I've mail-ordered a tight, sequined dress, even though I'm 30 pounds overweight, the reason why I sometimes eat pizza at 2am and witness polite convicts getting arrested while making small talk with us about Canada (this was in NYC last summer). Heck, she's the reason why I rightfully feel young, and have adopted the catchphrase "she makes me feel young, goshdarnit!"

And so to everyone who's feeling a little lackluster with their day to day routine, I suggest you seek out your own dancing buddy (if that's your thing) or if you've already got one, thank 'em. 

"We've come a long, long way together, through the hard times and the good. I have to celebrate you baby, I have to praise you like I should"-Fatboy Slim